Resume Updated

diploma-1390785_960_720It’s been a while since I’ve written something but quite a bit has happened. I finally graduated college; at a much older age than I thought I would when I was back in High School. I did meet my goals of graduating Summa Cum Laude and even won another award for a high GPA in one of my majors. I felt like this would be an amazing addition to my resume, but I’ve been a stay at home mom for about 11 years now. I have worked part time here and there to help make ends meet at times, but as far as full time work outside the home, I haven’t done it for 11 years.

My resume is simple. I worked at a single job for 8 1/2 years before staying home with my kids, so that looks pretty decent. I got some help making my resume sound better than; I did a lot of stuff and got paid for it. Apparently we have use key words and phrases in resumes now. I have applied for so many jobs my head is spinning. There is a possibility I have actually applied to the same position at the same company more than once.

Well, after so many rejections and feeling defeated, but then getting an email from one of my professors telling me I set the bar in the class for an individual project and to remember my school when I make my millions, I feel a bit better about myself. So now I am trying to decide whether or not to change up my resume to get myself more interviews and chances to get hired. I need your help. These are going to be my new additions to skills and experience that I feel any employer would hire me immediately without even having to do any assessments or interviews; and would offer me a starting salary that would pay for my students loans as well as my five sons’ college years. Here goes….

  • excellent negotiating skills (If I have made a toddler, go poop/pee on the potty, eat his vegetables, not hit his siblings, pick up their toys, learn to swim and ride bike, go to sleep etc etc….all without sacrificing much of my bottom line, that is success!)
  • ability to meet crucial deadlines (you know all those times your kids forget to tell you about something they need by tomorrow! Yeah, I have those skills!) (I also put together a crib.)
  • fully mastered organization skills (no food will ever touch the other food on your plate!) (Again….crib…by myself!)
  • significant attention to detail (especially when you child is on stage and you realize their pants are on backwards and their shirt is inside out. Did I actually wash their clothes this week or is this the result of a lack of anything clean?) (Did I mention I put a crib together?)
  • master of changing diapers – You make think this is unnecessary, but this could come in handy for those really old guys who refuse to retire before 90.
  • ability to multitask with my eyes closed and one hand tied behind my back (5 kids and one husband plus college; yeah, I’ve conquered multitasking!)

So, those are just a few extra skills I am thinking about adding to my resume. I think it should help tremendously. So, did I miss anything? What else should I add, or perhaps this gives you ideas on what to add to your resume!?

Use Me

bucket-and-spongeMy kids are always asking me (usually in a whiny voice!) why they have to do something that I ask them to do. They also like to find the loopholes in what I say as well. Maybe one day they will be accountants or lawyers! Anyway, I tell them they need to clean up after themselves. So next time I ask them to clean something, they let me know they did not make that mess and therefore, should not have to clean it. Then in my best Mom voice, I remind them that if that were the case, our house would be unlivable because after all, I don’t make that much of a mess. I also remind them that God asks us to work hard and do our best no matter what we do and how much we may dislike it.

Colossians 3:23New King James Version (NKJV)

23 And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

I believe there is purpose in everything that we do. If you work at a job you dislike very much, perhaps there is a purpose in you being there. I believe that no matter what we are going through, God is not shocked. God is omniscient. When I ask my kids to do something, I realize that they may not clean it as well as I want it to be done, but I am teaching them something. When they say, “I want to help. I want to do something.” I am more than happy to accommodate their wishes. They are very rarely happy when it is something they don’t enjoy doing.

In this same way, when we beg God to use us, how many times do we get frustrated when we get asked to serve in little jobs? I know I haven’t always had a good heart when it comes to doing things I don’t like doing. As we grow and mature in Christ, we learn to serve with a joyful heart. God asks us to do things like tithing and giving and serving with joy. When my kids serve and help each other without my asking them to, that is when I see their maturity growing. When I see them doing things just because, that is when I want to reward them.

Luke 16:10-12Amplified Bible (AMP)

1“He who is faithful in a very little thing is also faithful in much; and he who is dishonest in a very little thing is also dishonest in much. 11 Therefore if you have not been faithful in the use of earthly wealth, who will entrust the true riches to you? 12 And if you have not been faithful in the use of that [earthly wealth] which belongs to another [whether God or man, and of which you are a trustee], who will give you that which is your own?

podiumI think sometimes when we cry out for God to use us, we are actually asking for a platform. Use me Lord because I know I can preach better than this man or woman. Use me Lord because I know I can lead worship so much better than this person. We must be faithful with the little to get to the bigger things. How often are we frustrated because we don’t get to speak in church? How upset do you get when somebody else gets called on to do what you feel called to do?

Search my heart God. Help me to be a loving, giving, and joyful servant. Help me to work hard each day no matter what I am to do. I thank You for Your loving kindness. Forgive me Lord for all the times I have not had a pure heart and have not served with joy.

My Dad’s Love

I’m in love with my husband. I’m in love with my children. I’m in love with so many people. Who taught me how to love? My father did. My father is still alive today. He is fairly young still. He is a good man. He is honorable. He taught me to stand tall. He taught me to be strong. He taught me to forgive. He taught me to be the daughter and woman that he knew I could be. I don’t ever want to fall short. I don’t ever want to disappoint him. I may be a wife and mother now, but I always want to believe that I bring honor to my father. I want to believe that my father is proud of me. My father sees my flaws and my mistakes and loves me anyway. I love my father. I adore my father and I look up to my father. My father is not perfect. I don’t always understand why he does some of the things he does. I don’t always understand certain choices he makes, but it doesn’t make me love him any less. I love because he loves me. 

How much greater is the Father’s love? God uses our earthly fathers to teach us love. They teach us a multitude of things, but they teach us to love first. When I see a picture of a father holding his newborn baby, it really touches something inside of me. Of course a mother and her newborn baby is beautiful, but a mother has had 9 months to bond with, and love that life inside of her. A father only gets to experience that first cry before he begins the lifelong bond. That doesn’t mean the father loves any less or more, or even different than the mother. It only means that first moment of wiggles and hiccups that a mother got to experience in her womb, is now what the father is experiencing for the first time. God uses our fathers to teach us how He loves us. Many earthly fathers fail at that, but God never fails. His love never fails. He knew us even before we were a thought in our parents’ hearts; and He loved us. 

Mothers, don’t be so critical of the father of your children. Don’t roll your eyes when they put the diaper on backwards, or wrestle too hard with them, or have a hard time getting up in the middle of the night. Dads aren’t made like moms, but it doesn’t mean that boys and girls need their fathers any less. Too many kids are growing up without fathers in this generation. Yeah, some are just plain jerks and terrible guys, but some have been pushed away by the mothers of those kids. Be strong. Stand up and fight for your children.Show them what love is.

So thank you Dad. Thank you for never giving up on me and always loving me. Thank you for making hard choices, sacrificial choices in order to not leave me.  I see you Dad. I see the Heavenly Father in you. I see you in the choice I made for my husband. He is a great father too. Because of you, Dad, I have seen, tasted, experienced, touched, felt, and found LOVE. Thank you, and I love you too!