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My Champions

Posted on July 26, 2016 by fivesonsplusone

I consider myself a strong woman. I like to get things done and I like to keep my word. I don’t have time for dramatic people when I have five sons to raise with my husband. I see women of all ages being and becoming strong women and a strength to their families. Women have come a long way in the world with equality and through women’s rights. I love the fact that I am allowed to dream big and follow those dreams in the United States. Women are blessed in this nation and all this nonsense about how women are so oppressed, is just that; nonsense.

I’ve talked some before about how this new feminist movement doesn’t want equality; they want to be above men and stomp on them to keep them down. I consider myself a strong and opinionated woman who submits to my husband. I am definitely not a perfect wife, but I believe if you took my husband aside and asked him, he would honestly tell you I submit.

My husband never allows me to do things. He excitedly pushes me to pursue things. If I even make a tiny comment about a hope, or a dream, or even something churning around in my head, he immediately believes I can do it. He does everything he can do to make a way for me. That my friends, is not oppression. There are so many men in this nation who are champions for their women; whether it be sisters, mothers, grandmothers, friends, or even workmates they believe in. As always, there are going to be those that take that word submission and turn it into something it was not meant to be, but this is definitely not the majority.

My Dad is the same way. My Dad always believed in me and my dreams. I remember how excited he was at my big dreams when I was younger. He would have done anything to help me pursue my dreams and I think he still would today. My brother believes in me and encourages me to strive for greater things. My brother and I are so different, yet we believe in each other and want the best for the other.

Today, I just wanted to celebrate those men in my life who are my champions. They stand up for me. They believe in me even when I didn’t believe in myself. They choose to see the good in me even when the bad and annoying is flaring up in their faces. I know I can thank many women who have been there for me and fought for me as well, but today I want to acknowledge the men in my life who helped me believe I could shoot for the stars.

So thank you to the love of my life, Chuck, who believes in me probably more than I believe in myself. Thank you to the man who gave me a weird sense of humor and this overly logical and numbers oriented mind, and who told me every day of my childhood that he loved me, my Dad. Last, but never least, my brother, Jesse. You have been a pain off and on, as I’m sure I have never been to you…..well, maybe once or twice! You always believe in me and think I should strive for even greater things.

Women, we stand together and believe in each other. If you don’t, you should be the voice that encourages other women. So many times, we thank those women who helped us and believe us along the way, but I also think it is important to acknowledge those men who have believed in us and encouraged us.

Today, let somebody know how much you appreciate them who has been your champion.

Oh Naked Girl…

Posted on January 15, 2016 by fivesonsplusone

Empower: make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.

Hey, I’m all about helping someone feel stronger and more confident. Don’t get me wrong. I’m only a little confused on how getting naked, or close to naked allows a woman to feel more confident. We have come to a place in society where confidence comes from showing our skin. Now, I’m not talking about going to the beach and covering up head to toe. I’m not even talking about modesty. Modesty is different for each of us depending on how we grew up and what culture we live in. I don’t really have a problem with a bikini. Heck, if my stomach didn’t look like I carried all five of my boys at once in it, I may actually wear one. I don’t have a problem with shorts or even tank tops, as long as you aren’t showing your lady parts, or your breasts. Moving from the coldest northern part of the country to the hot, humid, and did I say humid part of the south, I have learned to dress accordingly.

rest-44354__180 I sweat, a lot! I don’t glisten or perspire. I sweat like a trucker who chose that overly greasy, spicy meal at his last stop and there’s no rest stop for another hour. Yeah, I said it. Wow, this was not supposed to be where I was going with this, but I will still proceed and figure out where exactly I was. Oh, yes, empowerment. Man, I feel so much more confident being so open about my bodily perspiration! Oh, man, please stop Trista! Now I know what my husband feels like when I don’t know what to say in public so I let whatever words begin to fill my mouth come out.

stop multiple Moving on….why do women have to get naked to feel confident? Why do I need to show myself in my underwear to empower myself? Why would me showing my naked body help you feel more confident? What has happened to society?! How about instead of comparing ourselves to the sports illustrated model, or the girl who just bared her body on her Instagram, we learn to love ourselves as we are. Do we need to take care of our body?Absolutely! Do we need to watch what we eat and how much we eat? Absolutely! Do we need to get naked to prove how much we love ourselves? NO!!!

This is literally a spiritual battle we are in ladies. This has nothing to do with equality of women and men. Feminism has become all about bringing men down and stomping on them afterward. In my marriage, my husband and I are equal. We both bring good qualities to the table as well as our issues. I also submit to my husband. Submission has become a dirty word today. It has been twisted and turned into this terrible definition. In my personal opinion, Jezebel is one of the spiritual driving forces behind feminism and the women’s empowerment movements of today. Jezebel was always using her seducing powers to control and manipulate. Jezebel was the Old Testament version of women’s empowerment. She learned to control men and make them feel less of men. She made men her eunuchs. Isn’t that what feminism wants today?

I am all about women becoming more confident and feeling more beautiful. I love makeup and fashion. If I had the money today, I would be scheduling my surgery to fix my stomach, but it doesn’t mean that I am not confident. I am confident and I am submitted to my husband. I am the woman who understands that taking my clothes off doesn’t make me feel empowered. I am the woman who understands that the enemy is among us and this fight is not against flesh and blood, but against principalities and powers of darkness.

Men, don’t be afraid of today’s woman. A Godly woman will stand strong with you. A Godly woman will submit to you. A Godly woman will fight with you and fight for you. Men, be confident in who God made you to be. Godly women love a confident man. Godly women love a Godly man. Don’t allow society to change what God has intended for men and women to be.

Proverbs 9:10-12 New King James Version (NKJV)

¹⁰“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
¹¹For by me your days will be multiplied,
And years of life will be added to you.
¹²If you are wise, you are wise for yourself,
And if you scoff, you will bear it alone.”

Empowering Women to Submit

Posted on October 2, 2014 by fivesonsplusone

“Women need to be empowered.” I feel like I hear those words multiple times a day. I am sure this may make some women upset, but let’s get real for a moment. Who is truly holding us down? Is it men; other women; God; children? In my opinion, every time I see or hear about empowering certain races or genders, I hear the word division. We are constantly dividing ourselves when we promote one race or one gender. Society has made leaps and bounds where slaves are freed, women are considered equal and we all have the power to make something of ourselves. I think another problem is that we would rather blame somebody else for our shortcomings than to be honest with ourselves. We need to look ourselves in the mirror and be honest about the choices we have made in our lifetime to get us where we are now.

I am saddened by the way many liberal women see the world. If you can’t kill your baby, somebody is taking your power away. How can you pick and choose what empowers a woman. I feel empowered when I have the right to bear arms and protect my family, but many of the same women who want permission to abort their own offspring, think that is absurd and outrageous that I would want a gun.

I believe that the spirit of Jezebel along with other spirits has truly blinded this nation and the world for that matter, to what God’s true order is. I remember when Candace Cameron Bure went on talk shows talking about how she submits to her husband and women were literally outraged. Marriage is an equal partnership, but God placed men to be the heads of their homes. God meant for marriage to be between one man and one woman. Too man women see submission as enslaving themselves to a man; giving up all power and choices. God meant for submission to be a protection for women and children. Too many women want men to become wimps and have power over men. There are too many marriages where the man submits to the wife and that is so against the word of God.

Yes, we all want to be empowered, but don’t allow the enemy [satan] to warp what God intended. Do not let the world tell you what you deserve or are entitled to; let God. God wants us to be blessed because He loves us, not because we are entitled to it.