Lost Souls Analysis

calculator-385506_1280I’m an Analyst. I’ve been working as an analyst for just under two years. I like it, I do, but my dream would always be to lead worship as often as I can and record albums with the music I write. I think we all have dreams that at times seem so far out of reach, but I’ll never give up hope!

OK, that was a bit of a rabbit trail, but I’ll try to get back on my original path. I’ve been doing a Lost Sales Analysis for a couple of my accounts. I have to be professional while letting my customers know that they lost money because they ignored my pleas to keep their replenishment numbers up. How can that not be fun? It’s like getting paid to say, “I told you so!” It’s all about the potential of what could have been.

Right away the Lord asked me about Lost Souls. Am I doing an analysis about all those times I have felt like I was supposed to talk to somebody about God and didn’t feel I had enough time, or just plainly didn’t want to do it? I’ll be honest, talking to strangers is a little like stabbing myself with a tiny knife. It’s truly torture to me, but I have to remember that these are people that God loves and gave His life for. My husband is prophetic and is a recognized Prophet of the Church. I’m in such awe of his willingness to go to a complete stranger in the grocery store and share something with them that God showed him. I’ve seen people cry and exclaim, “I so needed that!” Sometimes people just quietly say thank you and move on, but this doesn’t deter him. He doesn’t know how people are going to react, yet he still obeys the voice of God. He is more extroverted than I am, but that doesn’t change the fact that the potential is still there for people to get angry or straight out slap him for invading their space. He still obeys.

What is stopping me from taking 3 seconds of my time to look someone in the eye and remind them that God sees them; God loves them; and that He wants a relationship with them. I talked about how we can be seed planters a couple of weeks ago on a blog, and this goes along with that. We don’t have to pull out a traveling pulpit and preach at somebody for 20 minutes. We share the Love of God and that Love is what is planted inside their heart.

I want to challenge you today, and myself too, to tell a stranger that God loves them. You don’t know what people are going through. They could be going through the battle of their life and that glimpse of God’s love for them is all they need to fight harder. They may be an unbeliever and this moment of you stepping out is all it takes for a salvation to happen.


Oh Autocorrect!!

guy-2618325_1280I love texting. I’m one of those people that can get confused when my phone actually rings. I just don’t like to talk on the phone. People generally want to talk to me for too long. I enjoy people and people seem to enjoy me, but I manage to make things so awkward. I’m just not people gifted, but texting, that is a gift straight from God above.

What can go wrong with texting? One word; autocorrect. I bet autocorrect does what it is supposed to do more times than not, but most people don’t notice when it actually works. My autocorrect interchanges the words paid and laid more often than I care to admit. That’s so embarrassing!

In these instances, I can blame a program on my phone for saying the wrong thing, but what about those times where I say something that can’t be blamed on autocorrect. I have learned to read my final text before it’s sent out…at least most of the time, but how often do I say something to somebody without thinking through the context; without completely understanding the impact that my words have on them? The Bible tells us to watch our tongue because of the power it holds; to be wise and speak with grace.

Proverbs 22:11 New International Version (NIV)

11 One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace
    will have the king for a friend.

I can be a direct person with my speech. I get straight to the point and don’t like to prolong what needs to be said, but do I say it with grace? Maybe this post is only for me, I don’t know. What I do know is that I want people to see me as direct AND gracious. I want my heart to autocorrect in the good and right way when my mouth speaks.

Lord help me to be gracious and speak graciously. Let my heart be humble and my tongue be guarded. Thank you Lord for Your Grace on my life!


A Seed Planted

roses-1155986_1280About 6 months ago my husband and I sold our first home we owned. We felt it was the right decision for us for several reasons. We hope to purchase a new home in the next year or two. We went to visit some friends that still live in our old neighborhood recently and we drove by our old house. It was a little weird seeing my old house with different cars in front of it and different furniture on the front porch. I saw my old lawn that I took special care all last summer to get rid of all weeds and keep it looking really nice. 6 months later it was filled with weeds everywhere and unkempt.

flower-3166267_1280What really stood out to me more than that was my old flower beds. I had planted bushes and flowers and perennials. The annuals had died last winter in the cold temperatures, but with the early warm temperatures for springtime, the perennials were growing beautifully already. These seeds and bulbs I planted were still coming up and showing their beauty.  This little moment of seeing something I planted bearing fruit was such a moment of joy to me.

Of course a moment like this would have to show up in my blog, because everything is a teachable moment to me. We have people come and go in our lives. I don’t know about you, but I always wonder if I’ve left any impact on them. I have always hoped that if nothing else, I’ve planted seeds in people. I have come across people that I’ve known earlier in my life, who have told me about how I have impacted their life in some way. I’m not a well known person and I may never be, but I am who God made me to be. My life is not perfect and my past is not everything I’m proud of, but I pray that every person who has come into my life has been somewhat impacted by me in a good way.

What about you? Are the people you’ve come across in your life going to have beauty spring up in them because of the good you’ve planted in them? A warm smile for somebody on a dark day for them could be the seed you plant. A hug or kind words for that person in your life when they don’t expect it can be a seed planted. Maybe your kindness and words of counsel are the water needed to help somebody else’s seed grow.

Be encouraged today. Just like the love and kindness of others has planted seeds in you that are part of your beauty, you are a part of someone else’s beauty as well. garden-587604_1280


Proverbs 13:12 New King James Version (NKJV)

12 Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
But when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.

red-rose-in-snow-3267057__340What do we do when we hope for something for so long and it doesn’t ever seem like it’s going to happen? How do we keep hoping in the most hopeless situations?

I believe it’s about faith. Faith keeps my hope alive. I’ve lived my life holding on to hopes and dreams that I’m not sure will ever come true, but I will never give up hope that they will. I’ve seen things happen in my life that I’ve hoped for, and I’m still waiting on things that I’ve hoped for. When I was a little girl, I hoped that I would find a man who would love me and be the strength that I needed in my life. I found him and he is my husband. I hoped to have children with my husband, and I have five sons. I hoped to one day go to college as I didn’t go when I was younger. I graduated Summa Cum Laude just under two years ago and got a fantastic job. I always hoped that I would be able to sing on a worship team and I have gotten to be a Worship Leader for several years now. Some of those dreams have taken many years to accomplish, but I always hung on to hope.

What about those hopes that never feel like they are within reach? I used to have this dream that my Mom would show up full of remorse and regret for the way she has treated me and my family, and honestly, pretty much every person in her life thus far. I’ve done research on Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the main thing that they say about somebody who has reached the malignant stage of this disorder, is that there is no hope of them ever changing. Who they used to be will never come back. They are now at the stage that they believe every lie they tell and they no longer understand what is the true and what is a lie. I can honestly say, I have forgiven my Mom. At this point, all I can do is pray that she repents before she stands before God. I can’t say that I have this hope that she will try to know her grandchildren and actually want to be a part of their lives. I used to, but I don’t any more. What I do believe, is that my God can do anything. He is the God of miracles. I don’t know what His plan is. I do know that what I have gone through has opened up doors for me to help others who have been or are in the same circumstances. It’s difficult to explain to somebody how crazy you can feel being around a narcissist. You feel constantly drained. You feel wonderful one moment and then like the ground has been pulled from under your feet the next. Once you escape the strongholds of this person, you realize how controlled and manipulated you were. It’s like you were so mesmerized by this person that you were on a drug. They can make you feel so amazing when you are fulfilling a need that they have, but once you awaken from this euphoria and realize the way this person has controlled and manipulated you, and you begin to question them, that’s when you see the real person they truly are.

My hope is in God. My hope is that He will restore my Mom’s mind and life to what she is supposed to be for His glory, not for my selfish desires. Just as Joseph told his brothers to not be upset with themselves for what they did to him. Joseph understood that this was the plan God had for him all along. It was all part of his journey. This is the journey I am on. I won’t be upset about how my journey has been so far. I will do what I can to help others. I will help them learn to forgive and live with their hope in God. I have faith in God so my hopes and dreams are intertwined with that faith.

You may feel like you’re in a stage where your heart is sick because you’ve lost hope, but don’t give up. God does not break promises. Keep your focus on Him and He will direct your path. It may not happen tomorrow, but it will happen. Guard those promises in your heart and hold on to your hope because He will never give up on you!

Come To Me

sunset-3258051_1280This weekend and many, many times previously, I’ve told my sons that I am always available to them. If they need to talk to me for any reason, I am here for them. I get so frustrated when they come to me after going through something and it’s almost past the point of me being able to help them. You need to talk, I’m here. You need help with something, I’m here. You have a concern about me or something else, I’m here. You want to just talk to me, I will listen. I am never too busy for them. They are my children and I love them. Why do they try to go through things alone?

This really opened up my eyes this morning about how the Father sees us. He has told me numerous times that He is there for me. He is always there to talk to. He is always there to seek counsel from. I am His daughter and He loves me. He is never too busy for me.

I have often struggled with anxiety and worry off and on throughout my life. Much of this is due to the fact that I think I can do things on my own. I’ve made decisions without asking God what He desires from me. I have struggled through things on my own without reaching out to One who calls me His Favorite one. If I don’t understand why my sons don’t or even won’t come to me, imagine how our Father feels when we don’t or won’t go to Him. God’s word is very clear on this issue.

Matthew 11:28-30New International Version (NIV)

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

We did not choose God. He chose us!

John 15:16 New International Version (NIV)

16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.cross-66700__180

I want to encourage you, God is always there for you and me. He is never too busy. He loves us and longs to bless us. God gave us a will to make our own choices because He longs for us to choose Him. In order to know my children, I talk with them, I love them, I listen to them. God desires the same from us. He wants us to talk with Him, love Him, and listen to Him.

Father, I repent for trying to do things on my own. Forgive me for putting myself above You. I know that my strength comes from You, Lord. Thank you for blessing me in all ways. I want to know You more and I will make a change today, to do just that. Amen!




Band aids and Kisses

bandage-1235337__340My five year old is still at the stage where a kiss and and band aid will help pretty much any ailment. Currently, one of his arms and both legs are covered in his new PJ Masks band aids. They are covering bruises and red marks I’m not sure I can even see.

I’ve explained to my sons many times before, that band aids are a temporary fix. If you are bleeding, they are amazing, but nothing heals a wound better than keeping it uncovered. The same goes for adults. We make attempts to cover up wounds and offenses with temporary fixes. We don’t want to deal with issues so we pretend things are fine until one day, we realize we have gaping wounds that are completely infected and spreading to other areas.

Sounds a little gross right? We all do it. Somebody offends us and we tuck it away. Somebody says something hurtful about you, and you cover it up with toughness and determination, possibly with a little revenge tossed in to show them they messed with the wrong person. A close family member or friend does something truly horrible, and we ignore the pain and try to pretend it didn’t happen. We don’t want to confront, cause trouble, have somebody not like us, or stir up any additional issues that may come up. We would rather take our chances on the wounds naturally healing than to deal with it.

It’s time to deal with things. It’s time to allow healing to happen so that we can be the sons and daughters of God that we are supposed to be. My gaping wound was with my mother, but it had spread like a disease to infect all relationships with women. I didn’t trust them and would rather not deal with them at all. I believed all women lied and manipulated. I had to deal with the root of the issue. I had to forgive my mother for her severe inadequacies. I had to dig in deep and clean out all the disease of unforgiveness and bitterness that begins to build up. I had to learn how to clean this wound, and move on to other wounds and get them cleaned up. I had to confront my mother, which ultimately led to her cutting me and my family out of her life. It started another battle of unkindness and lies and hatred toward me that can still take my breath away. It has made me be a better mother to my children. It has helped me be a better wife to my husband. I’ve cleaned this wound and allowed God’s love to heal it. I have scars that remind me of all I have overcome in my life, but I will continue to learn and grow and never be ashamed for the battles I’ve overcome.

Don’t cover your wounds up any more. Let’s do what we have to in order to finish this race together and to do what God has called us to do.

My Impossibles

I caught myself the other day saying something was impossible. I realized it after I spoke. I serve the God of the impossible. Can I really say something is impossible? possible-953169__340

I am a realist. I can’t help myself. Things are black and white. There has to be a reason for everything. Stuff can’t just happen for no reason right?

When I was a kid, I was in choir classes. I loved singing back then as much as I do now. The voice is such an incredible instrument. I love singing. I wonder if my choir teacher back in the day would have thought it would be possible for this little girl to ever grow up and sing in front of people week after week. This little girl that one of my teachers had to ask to not wear skirts so you couldn’t see my knees shake so bad during performances. She probably would have told someone that me singing in front of people in the future was impossible! I still get a little nervous when I lead worship. I want things to go well and I want to take people into the Throne Room of Heaven and worship like they never have before, but I don’t get nervous about how I sing, or how I sound. Of course I want to sound good, but it doesn’t keep me up at night.

When I read the Word of God, I see example after example of God doing the impossible. He IS the God of the impossible.

open-book-981405__180There was the burning bush, and parting the sea, and healing all sorts of disease. He made food multiply! That seems impossible!!!

I need to change what I say. I want to believe for the impossible. I want to speak out and declare that God’s word does not return void. I’ve received promises that feel impossible. I don’t know how it’s going to happen. I don’t know how I am going to pay for things, or network with the right people. My mind thinks and rethinks and tries to make seemingly impossible things, seem possible. That’s not my job to do. If I have a promise (from God), my job is to walk the right path and the right way I am supposed to walk and not worry about it. The enemy wants to confuse us and to make us give up on things because they seem impossible to us. Don’t give up!